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Emotional Flexibility: How to Hold *Everything* at Once

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Emotional Flexibility: How to Hold *Everything* at Once
A critical skill for trying times Life is messy. Though there may be times when everything is clicking and going well - or the reverse: times when everything seems downright awful - we almost always find ourselves somewhere in the middle. Good stuff and bad stuff, all at once.

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Emotional flexibility is about embracing the never-ending contradictions and cultivating your mind to hold everything at the same time.

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