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Many things contribute to the way we define ourselves. Some we have no choice on, like where you’re born, while others we get to define, like an affiliation with a political party.
We tend to think of the events of our past as something in the “no choice” category. They happened and we can’t change how it’s affected us, right? But what if you can change the way your past impacts your identity?
From the foods we love to the situations that are uncomfortable, it’s all information we picked up through past experience.
Past experiences become the lens through which we view life and ourselves.
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This is not about denial or changing the facts. It’s okay to recognize the feelings that come up when thinking about difficult past events.
At the same time, though, you can adopt a positive outlook about yourself as a result. This will encourage you to take on a new identity, one where you...
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Explore the negative impacts of a past experience. Start by asking yourself how an experience has made you see yourself. Maybe getting bullied on the playground made you feel different from other people. Maybe you have a hard time expressing yourself now, or maybe you identify as having low self-...
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Finding strengths you’ve picked up due to the past can sometimes feel a little like rewarding the person or people who created the negative situation — but it’s not. It’s not about appreciating the individual for their bad acts. It’s appreciating yourself for making lemonade out of the lemons you...
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“The old you is only a shadow of the reality which is the new you. The shadow is useless without its reality.”
-Efrat Cybulkiewicz
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Here are some ways to uncover the positive elements of your story.
List a few of the most pivotal moments from your past.
Maybe you’re more compassionate and understanding toward others who are going through something similar. Perhaps, you’ve become more patient with ...
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The story we tell ourselves about who we are and how we are is a mindset. A mindset is a habitual perspective - a story we tell ourselves over and over. It is a way of seeing things.
The good news is, habits are changeable. It just takes a little commitment. Your perspective of your identi...
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Remember, it doesn’t mean you need to feel glad for past difficulties, especially if you were victimized. You’re not telling the person or circumstances that what happened is okay. Instead, you’re choosing to view yourself as a strong, resilient survivor. You’re turning lemons into lemonade, not ...
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