While people perceive narcissism to be an undesirable quality in others, the first impression that gets created in seeing a narcissist is a positive one.It may be due to the narcissists strategically presenting themselves in ways in which they are perceived having high levels of self-esteem.

The First Impression

In spite of the exhibitionism, arrogance, vanity and a massive superiority complex, narcissists seem attractive, and alluring to a large section of people.This surprising outcome may be due to people confusing narcissism with positive self-worth and high self-esteem.

Narcissists Will Catch Our Eye

Dating profiles report more attraction towards the flashy narcissists who show off their 'sex-appeal' upfront. Even in politics, people tend to gravitate towards candidates who show positive self-esteem or narcissism.A flashy attire, or showing off while dating is a trait of narcissists, not of those with healthy self-esteem, who have a stable sense of worth.It is crucial that we accurately distinguish between narcissism and healthy self-esteem, both as a perceiver and as a person addicted to esteem.

Self-Esteem in Dating and Politics

<ul><li>Narcissists may seem alluring because they seem like a catch, living in the 'emerging zone' of life, which manifests itself in parties, early-stage relationships, and places where making a good first impression is key.</li><li>When narcissists move towards the 'enduring zone', which involves continuing a relationship, and long-term consequences, they start behaving arrogantly and negatively.</li></ul>

Emerging Zone and Enduring Zone

The " charismatic air" of narcissists-- from their flashy attire, to their self-assured behaviors, to their charming glances, to their witty humor-- often makes a big first impression. At the same time, people seem to be really good at accurately perceiving narcissism in others based on minimal information (even just physical appearance is usually enough of a cue to accurately perceive narcissism).