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Day 25:

  • Self-interest is the lever that will move people.
  • You must train yourself to think your way inside the other person’s mind, to see their needs and interests, to get rid of the screen of your own feelings that obscure the truth.
  • Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions.

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The more one seeks to rise into height and light, the more vigorously do ones roots struggle earthward, downward, into the dark, the deep — into evil.

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