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A Stanford psychologist on the art of avoiding rude people

How to deal with rude people

  • If the person is unaware that they act like a jerk, have a backstage conversation and gently inform them that they've crossed a line.
  • If someone is treating you like dirt because they believe that's how to get ahead, get out of there.
  • If you are stuck in your situation, build your case. Collect the evidence and then take your chances.
  • Otherwise, ignore them. Don't care about it. It will take the wind out of their sails. In time, they will burn their own bridges and won't be there to demean you.

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How to set the right example
  • Expect from others what you expect from yourself. Never ask for something you're not doing.
  • When things go wrong, try to stay calm. Life is nothing but a series of solved problems. 
  • When you screw up, admit it. There’s no place for your ego.
  • Be clear about your values and rules. People must take you seriously.
  • Respect others and don’t try to change them. It’s impossible to change people. You can only change yourself.