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Some people are so thin-skinned that they think everyone is offending them when it's nothing personal. Other people are objectively treated like dirt everywhere because they're doing something to prompt that punishment.
We've got to take responsibility.
Mean-spirited people need someone in their life to tell them they're contemptible.
In the very short-term, it might seem to your advantage to let someone feel like dirt. However, in most situations, we actually need collaboration and should be givers rather than takers. By being an asshole, you might be destroying your organization by driving out the best people, undermining their productivity, creativity, and so on.
Your chances of getting rid of assholes that are colleagues or peers are higher. A simple strategy is to freeze them out. Don't invite them to events or gatherings. Shun them politely and smile if necessary, but otherwise, just ignore them.
Sometimes you have to speak to them in a language they understand.
Be self-aware and honest about yourself. Rely on people around you to tell you when you're out of line. Listen to them.
Vulnerability is consciously choosing to freely express your thoughts, feelings, desires, and opinions regardless of what others might think of you.
Vulnerability is showing your rough edges and a willingness to accept the consequences.
In our consumer culture, we end up buying more and doing more. To be satisfied is almost considered an offense because it means you're not chasing after the next thing.
Part of the same vicious cycle of wanting more is the desire for continual self-improvement and the development of other competencies.