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A Stanford psychologist on the art of avoiding rude people

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Some people are so thin-skinned that they think everyone is offending them when it's nothing personal. Other people are objectively treated like dirt everywhere because they're doing something to prompt that punishment.

We've got to take responsibility.

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Mean-spirited people need someone in their life to tell them they're contemptible.

In the very short-term, it might seem to your advantage to let someone feel like dirt. However, in most situations, we actually need collaboration and should be givers rather than takers. By being an asshole,...

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  • If the person is unaware that they act like a jerk, have a backstage conversation and gently inform them that they've crossed a line.
  • If someone is treating you like dirt because they believe that's how to get ahead, get out of there.
  • If you are stuck in your situation, bu...

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Your chances of getting rid of assholes that are colleagues or peers are higher. A simple strategy is to freeze them out. Don't invite them to events or gatherings. Shun them politely and smile if necessary, but otherwise, just ignore them.

Sometimes you have to speak to them in a language ...

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  • Sleep deprivation can turn you into your worst version.
  • If you're tired and in a hurry, you are more likely to misbehave.
  • If you have an excess of power in a situation, you're at risk.

Be self-aware and honest about yourself. Rely on people around you to tell you ...

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