A Stanford psychologist on the art of avoiding rude people

• If the person is unaware that they act like a jerk, have a backstage conversation and gently inform them that they've crossed a line.
• If someone is treating you like dirt because they believe that's how to get ahead, get out of there.
• If you are stuck in your situation, build your case. Collect the evidence and then take your chances.
• Otherwise, ignore them. Don't care about it. It will take the wind out of their sails. In time, they will burn their own bridges and won't be there to demean you.

Your chances of getting rid of assholes that are colleagues or peers are higher. A simple strategy is to freeze them out. Don't invite them to events or gatherings. Shun them politely and smile if necessary, but otherwise, just ignore them.

Sometimes you have to speak to them in a language they understand.

• Sleep deprivation can turn you into your worst version.
• If you're tired and in a hurry, you are more likely to misbehave.
• If you have an excess of power in a situation, you're at risk.

Be self-aware and honest about yourself. Rely on people around you to tell you when you're out of line. Listen to them.