• The romanticizer - the type of person who says, where's my Prince Charming? I love love. Love is something that happens to you, and if it feels like work, then you're with the wrong person.
• The maximizer: the person who says to you, I like my girlfriend, but I could be 5% happier with somebody else, or is there someone out there slightly better for me or slightly hotter or slightly more ambitious or make slightly more money?
• The hesitator: the type of person who isn't even dating because, in their mind, they're not ready to date yet. They say, I'll be ready to date when I get a more impressive job, I figure stuff out with my family. And it's always this, one day, they'll wake up and be perfect and ready to date, but they're not yet.

The soulmate mindset is the idea that love is effortless when you find the right person.

Love is something that happens to you, and if it feels like work, then you're with the wrong person. This is what brings unrealistic expectations into a relationship.