How to fall in love, according to Hinge's relationship scientist : Life Kit

The soulmate mindset is the idea that love is effortless when you find the right person.

Love is something that happens to you, and if it feels like work, then you're with the wrong person. This is what brings unrealistic expectations into a relationship.

This is basically a philosophy on life in which love requires work. If you're putting in effort, then you're doing it right.

When you hit an inevitable rough patch, you say, is this someone with whom I can navigate challenges and make hard decisions? And you invest more into the relationship. You don't give up on it. And this is so important because romanticizers need to understand that relationships are work.