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Why Teenagers Reject Parents' Solutions to Their Problems
Moving Towards A Solution
- Offering our kids an ear, empathy and encouragement helps them tremendously and moves the needle towards the best solution.
- Asking teens if they need any help is the first step towards providing relevant advice.
- Divide their problem into two categories: what can be changed, and what cannot.
- For things that can be changed, focus on the needs identified by your kid, and brainstorm for possible solutions.
- For things that cannot be changed, help them come in terms with the circumstances that are not in one's control.
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Vulnerable Time for Kids
A child's pre-teen and teen years are a high-emotion transitory period. This is due to shifting classmates, social pressure, multiple classrooms and a period of many 'firsts'.
Deep Friendships
A study on sixth-graders revealed that friendship is crucial and real for kids, and can be as deep as a parental relationship.
Most parents and teachers do not understand the importance of deep bonding among friends at school and tend to regard friendships as a distraction or a nuisance.
Social Isolation and Bullying
Social isolation is the dark side of the school, in which many kids with no friends are at risk of anxiety, depression and low self-esteem. There is a perceived sense of threat with being friendless, and the young, immature mind can deeply internalize the resulting difficulties, leading to depression.
Bullying at this age is also a major problem, with those who are socially isolated becoming the most vulnerable to being bullied.
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Purpose Is Essential
Purpose in life leads to greater well-being, hope and provides a sense of meaning in life.
The positive or negative experiences we have as children play an important role in our sense of pur...
Experiencing Adversity
Individuals who experience adversity at an early age have a decreased sense of purpose according to research.
For some, it works in the reverse, with adversity providing them with the 'kick' they need to pursue a particular calling in life.
Experiencing Conflict
Relationship issues with parents lead to a decreased sense of purpose as the young person grows older.
Frequently fighting or arguing with parents drains the child's energy and enthusiasm.
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'Controlling' the future
Many American parents believe that their choices carve out their children’s futures. They seek expert advice to attempt to raise the happiest, most successful, and most well-adjusted leaders of tom...
Fostering independence
In Japan and Norway, parents are focused on cultivating independence.
- In Norway, most children enter state-sponsored daycare at 1 year old.
- In Japan, children run errands without parental supervision. The children take subways by themselves and walk on busy streets alone.
Different frames
American parents focus on grooming their children's talents for success. Many Asian nations focus highly on academics, while the Dutch parents believe in not pushing their children too hard.
In Spain, families are focused on the social and interpersonal aspects of child development.