Fears That Drive Our Overwhelm
We often have too many commitments. We say Yes to too many things, partly out of optimism, but also because we are uncomfortable saying No to people.
When your boss, spouse, child or parent asks you to do something, there is an expectation that you’ll say Yes. The idea of saying No to them and protecting a boundary can bring up a lot of fear of letting that person down or upsetting them. This plays out even with people who are not as central to us: coworkers, neighbors, friends. We don’t want to say No to them, out of fear of letting them down or upsetting them, so we say Yes. This creates a
33
408 reads
CURATED FROM
IDEAS CURATED BY
The idea is part of this collection:
Learn more about mindfulness with this collection
How to communicate effectively with teachers
How to create a supportive learning environment at home
How to manage your child's school schedule and activities
Related collections
Similar ideas to Fears That Drive Our Overwhelm
Mindfulness: Transmuting and Transforming our Fears
We can indeed transform and transmute the feeling of fear within us. The reason we fear being ourselves most of the times it is because we live our lives based on other people’s expectation of us. Our fears have made us to rob ourselves of the freedom to make the right choices in life and so beca...
Do it rarely
If you choose to use strategies for conscientiously flaking, try to do it rarely.
If you have to do it often, it’s probably because you’re saying yes to too many things and the real problem is not how to get out of stuff but how to say no in the first place.
Learn to say “NO”
Feeling like you’re doing busywork is often the result of saying yes too often. We have to let go of this idea of doing everything and pleasing everyone and being everywhere at once.
Properly manage your yeses. So stop saying “yes” when you want to say “no.” Sometimes ...
Read & Learn
20x Faster
without
deepstash
with
deepstash
with
deepstash
Personalized microlearning
—
100+ Learning Journeys
—
Access to 200,000+ ideas
—
Access to the mobile app
—
Unlimited idea saving
—
—
Unlimited history
—
—
Unlimited listening to ideas
—
—
Downloading & offline access
—
—
Supercharge your mind with one idea per day
Enter your email and spend 1 minute every day to learn something new.
I agree to receive email updates