Forgiveness is choosing to not let negative events of the past define how you feel.

Forgiveness can keep your emotional body healthy. It increases feelings of happiness and decreases feelings of anger and grief, reduces anxiety and depression, improves your relationships and makes y...

Once you've empathized with the person and decided they are also just human, ask yourself what role you want them to have in your life.

• Set rules. Define which behaviors you will and won't accept.
• Decide on consequences if someone breaks your rules.

Let go of the emotional attachment that you've developed. Let the hatred and anger dissolve, let the thoughts of revenge and misfortune die.

We all can succumb to behaviors that are not reflective of who we really are.
Separating the action from the person is crucial to find some closure.

Resentment forces you to live in the past by fixing that person to that past moment.

Do not let yourself or the relationship be defined by anger. The ability to forgive and move on is critical for maintaining a healthy and happy relationship with the people you care about.

We all do things in our lives that we regret, and then we hold on to shame and guilt. The process to forgive yourself is the same:

• Separate the action from yourself.
• Understand your motivation. Was it insecurity or ignorance that drove you to do this thing?

Forgiveness is ultimately a form of empathy - it is taking whatever pain motivated the person and imagine that you have that same pain yourself. 

If forgiveness is the ability to see the person as a multi-faceted human being, empathizing with them is what gets you there.