5. “If that’s what you want to do…” - Deepstash
5. “If that’s what you want to do…”

5. “If that’s what you want to do…”

This phrase implies disapproval. Other passive aggressive judgement signals include “Just so you know...” or “For future reference...”

Your listener hears a common refrain in each of these phrases: “I don’t agree. Don’t you know who I am? You messed up again.”

What to say instead:People don’t usually make decisions to upset you. If you disagree, speak up. But lead with the benefit of the doubt. Is your input required? Is this the right time to say something?

If so, be polite and direct as you advocate for what you think is best: “What if we take this course of action for this benefit?”


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We should avoid these phrases that only serve to irritate the listener.

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