Do a reality check

False subconscious beliefs include a feeling of nobody caring about what you have to say, a feeling of worthlessness and imagining yourself to be a miserable failure.

The astounding part is that we live most of our lives carrying these chronic false beliefs in us, manifesting them into unconscious actions leading to eating disorders.

The cure to a negative self-image formed by your beliefs is to be aware of what you think, speak or do. If you start to recognize your behavioural patterns, your hunger cravings and just pause before a habitual activity is starting, you can get a grip on the underlying emotions that drive these beliefs and corresponding actions.

Awareness and body-connection become your starting point, and one can then learn to recognize, manage, accept, and allow emotions, with eyes wide open.

Instead of becoming discouraged by all the goals that have not been completed, decide to start living. Live with clarity and direction. 

Realize that the time is passing, but it's what we do every moment forward that counts.

The body is an orchestra of organs, each providing an essential function. In this metaphor, the circadian rhythm is the conductor. The conductor makes every neurotransmitter, every hormone, and every chemical in the body cycle with the daily rhythm.

This makes us our sleep habits unique and tailored.

Being a morning (or evening) person is inborn, genetic, and very hard to change.

• Saying No Doesn’t Mean You’re a Bad Person: Saying no doesn't mean that you are being rude, selfish, or unkind. These are all unhelpful beliefs that make it hard to say no. Learning where these beliefs have come from is a great way to learn to let go of them.
• Knowing Your Value:  Learning to say no is realizing that you are valuable and choosing your own opinion about yourself over others.
• Is It Really Worth It?: Learning to say no is also deciding if saying yes is really worth it. Think about the anguish, stress, and resentment that saying yes has caused you. Wouldn't it be so much easier and straightforward to just say no in the first place?

• Be direct.
• Don't apologize and give all sorts of reasons.
• Be honest.
• Don't delay your response.
• Be polite.
• Practice saying no. This will get you feeling a lot more comfortable with saying no.
• Know your worth. Don't mind what other think of you.

Do less and focus on the more impactful, instead of the urgent. Don’t do everything on that list and don't pack your schedule full to reduce stress. 

Actually be with them, talk with them, bond with them. There isn’t much there will give you more joy than this.

• The corporate jargon is often described as fluffy, without any real substance and aimed towards the speaker’s self-inflated ego.
• Words are substituted for analogies and references that take longer to process, and have the intention of wrapping, hiding or impeding actual, effective communication.

Corporate speak may not mean anything of value to anyone in a meeting, but like the Emperor's New Clothes, no one wants to point out the inefficiency and mind-numbing nature of the constant use of the jargon. Everyone pretends that they are on the same page as everyone else.

• Most people think of self-discipline in terms of willpower only, which is wrong.
• Individuals who are able to follow the set rules of self-discipline also tend to be the ones who enjoy the routine.
• To succeed in your self-discipline routine, your willpower must be trained steadily over a long period of time.

• Disciplining people through shame and guilt works well in society, and natural impulses/ instincts being suppressed by religion and philosophers.
• The curbing of our natural instincts is a method employed to protect us from our over-indulgence and from our own natural desires.

Chaos is the natural state of the universe. There are more ways things can go wrong than ways things can go right. But chaos is a potential threat and that’s why we like orderly and ordering things.

Understand that there will always be problems in your life. Don’t expect to solve every problem or to always do the right thing. Simply do the best in your power, but don’t try so hard that you create more problems than solve.

Meditation is a place to view consciousness in its entirety, to see problems as they arise, and to watch them pass. Through it, is easier to see that all those who do bad things, small or big, are like ourselves except in different stages of development.

Knowing that and that we all need to minimize problems, achieve our desires and cooperate makes it easier to accept and deal with things as they come.

Games are optimal learning environments:

• Feedback loops are short, fast and adapted to your skill level.
• Challenges grow as you develop new skills.
• Failures are learning opportunities because every time you make a mistake, you get a hint about how you can do better next time.

Boredom is what we feel when our brain decides that there's nothing worth learning. It's the brain searching for new information.

And even games become boring at some point because they eventually run out of things to teach you. That's when you stop playing.