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No Sudden Reactions

"Your feelings are valid, but your reactions may not be."

"If you ever find yourself feeling very angry at somebody, and want to give them a piece of your mind either over text, email, or phone, listen to this advice. It’s some of the best I have ever learned."

"Write down what you would want to say first, either in a word document or email or whatever, save it, but DO NOT send it. Then, wait at least 12 hours or overnight and revisit what you wrote."

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" Another factor is how that's basically what you are until 15 years old. Until your basic reptile adult 'survival responsibility' kicks in, we're oblivious and happy most of the time. Then suddenly, the baseline changes, and almost no one is prepared for it, and the only reasonable ...

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Friendship Reality Check

"Your best friend may not consider you to be their best friend."

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Compliments Make a Difference

"It never hurts to compliment somebody on the quality of their work, their hobbies, and whatever field are most important to their self-esteem. It always goes a long way."

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A Few Golden Tips

" Admit when you've done something wrong."

" Trust your gut."

" Nobody thinks as much about you as yourself."

" Be kind. Don't be an a**hole."

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The Best of Times and the Worst of Times

"Life actually sucks a lot of the time. If you expect to be happy all the time, you will be sorely disappointed and lost. Instead, work up resilience to the hard times and take your time to enjoy the good times."

"It can take so long to learn this, because no one rea...

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Don't Make It Worse

"If someone does something unintentionally embarrassing or awkward, you pretend it didn't happen, and if they look at you, you just smile and look away."

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Stop Comparing

"In the song 'Grand Illusion' by Styx, there is a line: ' Don’t be fooled by the radio, tv, or the magazine. Shows you photographs of how your life should be, compared to someone else’s fantasy.'"

"So, I guess, the idea that you might not feel like you're living your...

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Elevator Etiquette

"Before you enter and elevator, LET OTHER PEOPLE OUT FIRST, GODD**NIT!"

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" If you need help and it is available, ask for it, take it."

"Just because you apologize doesn't mean the other party has to forgive and forget."

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Don't Ask the Question You Don't Want the Answer To

"Don’t ask for somebody else’s opinion and get mad when they tell it to you."

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Exceed Expectations

"Under promise and over deliver. People will think you are a genius."

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A Golden Rule for Kids

"If a toddler hands you a toy phone, you answer it."

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There are so many good pieces of advice here, but perhaps the most wonderful thing is that it doesn't take a lot to make someone's day a little better, including your own.

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Be Able to Walk Away

"Never let anyone take or disturb your peace. Learn to walk away from toxic people!"

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"After having a cool-off period and some time to gain some clarity, 90% of the time you would have regretted having sent the original message and are usually in a much better place to respond so as to not burn any bridges that you meant to keep."

"I’ve always heard of this as...

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Stay Humble

"If you don't understand something someone is telling you, say so instead of pulling an 'opinion' on the topic out of your a**. There is no shame in not knowing or understanding something."

"Refusing to admit you don't know and by extension refusing to learn something new bec...

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Unwritten Rules About Life Everyone Should Know

No one's life is going to be perfect, and we cannot be happy 100% of the time.

But there are things we can do to make our lives, and others', better, and those things are not necessarily all that complicated.

"What are some unwritten life rules everyone must know?"

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"Family" Isn't a Reason

"Just because someone is family, doesn't mean they're a good person."

"It's so wild how people call you a bad person for avoiding your family despite knowing nothing about their family."

"Like, 'It doesn't matter what they did, you were in the wrong because t...

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Avoid Gossip

"Not everybody is your friend, so be careful who you vent to. Many people only want juicy gossip and don’t give a s**t about you or your problems."

"A good sign of this is when your friend brings you dirt or juicy stuff about someone else that likely was said in confidence or...

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Unwritten Rules About Life Everyone Should Know

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