The more you do it, the more you'll come to realize that your time, commitments, and aspirations are just as important as those of the requestor.

Saying no can actually improve your sense of self-worth.

The word "no" carries an air of final-ity. Many people are ill-prepared to hear it, and lack the ability to accept it with poise and understanding.

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If we avoid taking ownership of our decisions to decline requests, we never feel truly empowered with a sense of personal agency. Every time we say "I can't," we train our minds to avoid taking responsibility. Over time, this gives us the false sense that we're not in control.

Take ownership of your decision

They have higher expectations of you than your coworkers, friends, and neighbors. They expect you to drop what you're doing to help them. The solution is to set new expectations. You must establish boundaries that are respected by your relatives. Create rules regarding what you're willing to help with and what you're not willing to help with.

Saying no to extended family can be uncomfortable

Disappointment springs from unmet expectations. When you acknowledge this fact, you'll find it easier to let go of your fear of disappointing people when you say no to them. You'll come to appreciate that their disappointment is neither your fault nor responsibility. This perspective will give you the courage to stop accommodating every request and invitation that comes your way.

You're not responsible for causing others disappointment

Burdened with a low self-image, we mistakenly believe our time is worth less than others' time. We wrongly assume our goals and interests are inferior to other people's goals and interests. We perceive our value to the world as somehow less than the value offered by those around us.

We want others to be drawn to us, to trust us, and to feel better for having spent time with us. It's unsurprising that we often say yes when we know we should say no. It's an instinctive response borne of our longing for other people's approval. But it's important to recognize this yearning for validation as a trigger for our tendency to say yes. When we're aware of our motivations, we can review them and take steps to realign our decisions with our values.

We want others to like us

Being assertive means having the self-confidence to express your needs and wants, and pursue your own ends, even in the face of opposition. It involves telling people where you stand on a given topic and leaving no room for confusion. Assertiveness is declaring your point of view and not feeling as if you need others’ approval or validation. It is a learned trait.

Psychology of Assertiveness

It frees you to pursue your own interests, both personal and professional. To that end, it’ll boost your productivity, improve your relationships, and fill you with a sense of confident calm that may seem alien to you at this moment.

Saying no to people is one of the most important skills you can

Emotional bullying occurs when one person makes another feel afraid, angry, or self-conscious for the purpose of achieving his or her ends. This is accomplished through a variety of means, including the following: yelling, swearing, making threats, lobbing insults, humiliation, making accusations. Take the high road. Because you're aware that the abuser is knowingly being manipulative, you'll be less compelled by his or her tactics. You won't feel shamed, fearful, guilty, or embarrassed. Instead, you'll recognize the bully's shouting and swearing as indications of his or her personality flaws.

We succumb to emotional bullying

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Stop Being A People Pleaser! Learn How To Set Boundaries And Say NO - Without Feeling Guilty! Are you fed up with people taking advantage of you? Are you tired of coworkers, friends, and family members demanding your time and expecting you to give it to them?If so, THE ART OF SAYING NO is for you.Imagine being able to turn down requests and decline invitations with confidence and poise. Imagine saying no to people asking you for favors, and inspiring their respect in the process. DOWNLOAD The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!) Amazon bestselling author, Damon Zahariades, provides a step-by-step, strategic guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You'll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you'll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority.In THE ART OF SAYING NO, you'll discover: <ul> <li>my personal struggle with being a people pleaser (and how I overcame the habit!)</li> <li>the top 11 reasons we tend to say yes when we know we should say no</li> <li>10 simple strategies for turning people down with finesse</li> <li>why saying no to people doesn't make you a bad person (the opposite is true!)</li> <li>the best way to develop the habit of setting personal and professional boundaries</li> <li>how to know whether you're a people pleaser (and how to gauge the severity of the problem)</li> </ul> PLUS, BONUS MATERIAL: dedicated sections on saying no to your spouse, kids, friends, neighbors, coworkers, clients, bosses, and even strangers!If you're sick and tired of being taken for granted, grab your copy of THE ART OF SAYING NO today! Start taking control of your life by learning how to say that simple, beautiful word: "No."Scroll to the top of the page and click the "BUY NOW" button!

Productivity expert Damon Zahariades is owner of ArtOfProductivity.com, a site devoted to showing you how to hack your day to get more things done. He wasn't always productive. Damon spent many years in Corporate America, dragging himself to ridiculous meetings and enduring the impromptu "drive-by" visits of his coworkers, before striking out on his own. Today, he owns his own content marketing agency and creates action guides that show others how to boost their productivity.

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