To “I can do Y despite not feeling X.”

Like expectations, criticisms are not necessarily bad. In fact, we all need to be critical in order to grow, improve, and be better—both for ourselves and the people we care most about.

But criticisms are dangerous because they easily slip from healthy and productive to unhealthy and hurtfu...

A mindset is like your default way of thinking about things.

Mindset work is key to nearly every aspect of our emotional health and wellbeing, but it’s especially helpful if you struggle with anxiety and self-doubt and want to become more confident.

They will help you move from a fear-based mindset to a confidence mindset.

1. Shift your expectations from idealistic to realistic
2. Shift your judgments from moral to mechanical
3. Shift your criticism from people to actions
4. Shift your focus from thoughts and feelings ...

Make it a practice to judge persons and things in the most favorable light at all times and under all circumstances.

When you’re in the habit of judging things—including yourself—in moral terms (right vs wrong, good vs bad), it’s easy to end up moralizing about things that aren’t actually m...

Expectations themselves aren’t a problem. The problem is that we rarely examine or update our expectations…

Unrealistic expectations actually fragelize you and how lowering your expectations can surprisingly lead to more confidence and peace of mind.

So, anytime you find yourself gett...

• It’s very difficult to think your way out of worry and anxiety… analyzing your worries usually just leads to more worry, and as a result, more anxiety and insecurity.
• If you’re racked with imposter syndrome, you can tell yourself that you’re smart and capable until you’re blue in th...

Here’s a counter-intuitive idea about dealing with fears and insecurities and building confidence:

The solution to internal problems is usually behavior change.

While it’s good to be aware of your thoughts and feelings, and to periodically reflect on them, most people who are anxious...