Primates need to belong to an intimate social group in order to survive; this is especially true for humans. Separation from your group (either finding yourself alone or finding yourself among a group of people who do not know and understand you) triggers a fight-or-flight response.

The evolutionary theory of loneliness

Our bodies perceive being alone (or with strangers) as an emergency. Thus, our nervous system evolved to produce the anxiety we associate with loneliness. We breathe fast, our heart races, our blood pressure rises, we don’t sleep. We act fearful, defensive, and self-involved, all of which drive away people who might actually want to help, and tend to stop lonely people from doing what would benefit them most: reaching out to others.

Reacting with our bodies

It is an umbrella term we use to cover for all sorts of things most people would rather not name and have no idea how to fix. Plenty of people like to be alone. But solitude and seclusion are different from loneliness. Loneliness is a state of profound distress.

Loneliness is a form of grief

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<li>Before the 20thcentury, about 5% of all households (about 1% of the world population) consisted of just one person. That figure began rising around 1910, driven by urbanization, the decline of live-in servants, a declining birth rate, and the replacement of the traditional, multigenerational family with the nuclear family.</li>
<li>During the past half century, for the first time in human history, great numbers of people (of all ages, in all places, of every political preference) have begun settling down as singletons.</li>
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Statistics

According to historian Fay Bound Alberti, modern loneliness is the child of capitalism and secularism. Many of the divisions and hierarchies that have developed since the 18th century (between the individual and the world, individual and community, public and private) have been naturalized through the politics and philosophy of individualism.

Modern loneliness

We crave intimacy. And yet, long before the present pandemic, with its forced isolation and social distancing, humans had begun building their own separate cells. Before modern times, very few human beings lived alone.

Loneliness before quarantine

... is that lonely people can’t see that lots of people feel the same way they do. Loneliness seems to be such a painful, frightening experience that people will do anything to avoid it. We shut down the lonely, afraid that this might be some kind of a contagious situation.

The tragedy of loneliness

Until a century or so ago, almost no one lived alone; now many endure shutdowns and lockdowns on their own. How did modern life get so lonely? The female chimpanzee at the Philadelphia Zoological Garden died of complications from a cold early in the morning of December 27, 1878.

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