I had to stop being nice so I could... - Deepstash

I had to stop being nice so I could be kind.

This would mean: I had to set boundaries, I had to say "No," and I had to start actually putting my needs first.

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I can’t tell you how much this summarises my entire life and way of thinking … finally started to be aware that this is not good for myself and starting to change … hard every day

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Learn to say “NO”

Feeling like you’re doing busywork is often the result of saying yes too often.  We have to let go of this idea of doing everything and pleasing everyone and being everywhere at once.

Properly manage your yeses.  So stop saying “yes” when you want to say “no.” Sometimes ...

People's impression of you

If the people you know had to describe you and your deal, what would they say? What do you want them to say?

Clarifying people’s impressions of you doesn’t mean being fake, it actually means being yourself —being the person you want to think of yourself as

Keep your focus on what YOU want out of your life.

If you know what’s most important to you and you keep your focus on that each day then you’ll naturally start to say no and stop being so people pleasing.

...because now your energy and time is mostly focused on your needs and wants.

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