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Chances are, you can relate to a few of these. Maybe you relate to all of them. But most of us have one or two that are much more important to us than the others, and it's different for everyone. As Chapman told SheKnows :
"I discovered every person understands and receives love in a specific language, one of five to be precise. The other four are just as important and offer [other] ways to express love to each other."
There's really no scientific research behind Chapman's theory; it just makes sense because it's relatable. It's obvious that we all show affection in different ways. These "languages" simply label those ways so you can understand people a little better.
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You can probably figure out what your language is by simply giving it a little thought, but Chapman offers a 30-question quiz on his website . This is helpful because, if you identify with more than one language, the quiz tells you which ones ...
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Love languages can't fix everything, of course. They're not going to solve your joint money problems, for example. They're not going to make your in-laws more tolerable or get your partner to help out more around the house. But the concept does go a long way in communicating better, and we all kn...
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In his own words, here's how Chapman breaks down the five love languages in his book:
The five languages are pretty straightforward, but here's a brief description of what each of them mean:
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It took time to realize that his love language is 100 percent words of affirmation and zero percent quality time or acts of service. It seems strange to me, but that's him, and that's how he expresses (or doesn't express) affection. Once I got that, his lack of phone calls stopped hurting my feel...
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In short, knowing what makes you tick and what doesn't can help you empathize with people a little better .
When you realize what your partner does and doesn't care about, you can empathiz...
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That's sort of the idea behind the concept of love languages : they let you in on what makes your partner tick. The idea is: we all express and feel love differently, and understanding those differ...
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When you know what your partner does and doesn't care about, it's a pretty big eye opener. For example, for years, I've been giving my significant other small gifts to show that I care. I put a lot of thought into those gifts, and I loved surprising him. It would piss me off when he'd receive the...
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Of course, the concept is also helpful in simply expressing your love in the best possible way. For my fiancΓ©'s birthdays, I'd always put a huge amount of thought into his physical gift. Now that I know quality time is more important to him, I cater to that instead. I put more energy into plannin...
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In his own words, here's how Chapman breaks down the five love languages in his book:
"My conclusion after thirty years of marriage counseling is that there are basically five emotional love languages-five ways that people s...
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Getting to know a person in a romantic relationship is a gradual process. Over time, you learn more and more about them, including their likes and dislikes, and how they think.
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It can help in business, too. Business strategist Marie Forleo says the love languages concept is her "secret weapon" in maintaining a happy team . As a leader, she finds out how each person on her team feels appreciated, and she ca...
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The 5 Love Languages is the concept, from Dr. Gary Chapman, that there are five different ways of communicating love.
The 5 Love Languages are:
The idea is: we all express and feel love differently, and understanding those differences can seriously help your relationships.Β
We all show affection in different ways. These βlanguagesβ simply label those ways so you can understand people a little better.
Author Gary Chapman developed the theory that there are five basic ways romantic partners give and receive love.
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