Suppose you ask your co-worker to fix something in... - Deepstash

Suppose you ask your co-worker to fix something in a presentation you're working on together and they snap back at you with: "Well, I've had to fix plenty of your mistakes!" There's anger functioning to alleviate some feelings of embarrassment, for example, at their mistake.

Once you learn to look for the function of other people's anger, it makes it easier to separate yourself from it and stay detached. When you can see that your husband getting angry and rude is a defense mechanism (however primitive!) for dealing with his own insecurity, it makes it easier to confidently stand your ground.

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