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The point is, it's very easy to start telling ourselves stories in our head about other people's anger and what it means. And usually these stories aren't super objective, in large part because they tend to be self-serving.
Once you've built up a story in your head about why their anger isn't justified, you're much more likely to act in a way that invalidates their anger, puts them on the defensive, and escalates the conflict.
Instead, one of the best things you can do when confronted with someone else's anger is to avoid any speculation about their anger initially.
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See, what most people don't realize is that anger is actually a positive emotion . We think of it as bad or negative because people who are angry often end up doing negative things. But if you really think about it, the feeling of anger ...
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Second, this storytelling is self-serving. The fact that these stories you're telling make you look like the good guy and her look like the bad guy are going to make you feel better. And the fact that it makes you feel better is a major conflict of interest when it comes to being objective. Maybe...
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Unchecked self-talk can easily turn into self-delusion. The stories we create almost always make you look like the good guy and cannot be termed as objective.
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