While your intentions are probably good, treating people's struggles like a problem is invalidating. It makes them feel like it's not okay for them to have the problem or that they should be able to fix it immediately. And for someone who's struggling or upset, feeling bad about feeling bad is a recipe for defensiveness, communication breakdowns, and long-term relationship trouble.
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