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Cognitive Dissonance
Pay close attention to what ‘spikes’ up your emotions, those triggers that are felt when someone challenges you, or provides you with information that is new to you or does not align with your reality.
This cognitive dissonance (the state of holding two or more contradictory beliefs) may be your chance to update your expectations, instead of making the world fit in them.
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After The Fire
You cannot win a persistent argument while being in that fight due to heightened emotions and a high chance of stepping in a verbal minefield. Better to discuss it later when you are in a different setting, like a dinner date, talking in a relaxed manner so as to not start any new argument.
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Ask Questions And Listen
When you're having an argument, there are two different views involved, and maybe two different realities. Instead of making it a black and white, right or wrong argument, try to ask genuine questions to help you understand what the other person is thinking.
Calm down, create mental spa...
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Summarize What You Understand
Other people may have blind spots and one way to make them understand what you understand is to say to them, ‘So, As I understand, what you are saying is essentially this’ and summarize their position to them.
If your argument hasn’t yet gone in the irrational territory, this will wo...
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The Realms Of An Argument
There are three different realms of an argument:
- Head-based arguments are about the truth, based on facts and verifiable information.
- Heart-based arguments are about meaning, personal taste and moral values.
- Hand-based arguments are about usefulness...
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The cognitive dissonance theory
It suggests that holding 2 or more contradictory beliefs at the same time causes people to experience mental discomfort, which manifests as psychological stress.
And people will always seek to minimize their cognitive dissonance and the discomfort it creates.
Our aversion to cognitive dissonance
Cognitive dissonance is a negative, tensed emotional state that is caused by holding beliefs or behaviors that are inconsistent with one another.
Because cognitive dissonance brings discomfort, we try to escape it. There are 2 options to get rid of it: to change a ...
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