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How to Fix the Fights You're Sick of Having

The form fights take

  • The first dynamic of an argument: you gather the information that reinforces your beliefs and neglect information that challenges them.
  • The second dynamic: the negative attribution theoryIf I’m treating you poorly, it’s because I had a bad day.
  • The third dynamic: the negative escalation cycle. This is when we instigate from a person the very behavior we don’t want.

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Social Inequality
Social Inequality
  • Before we move towards a just society by going vocal globally, we need to cater to first place the injustice starts: Our Homes.
  • We need to have some hard conversations with our near and dear ones to understand the genesis of inequality and injustice before we try to eradicate the problem on a large scale.
  • We need to ask our loved ones how their beliefs, decisions, and choices came into being while keeping the conversation flowing by showing curiosity and not losing our temper.
Tolerance and Broadening Our Mindsets
  • We need to find out how much tolerance we have of people that are different from us, whether it is their looks, background or belief patterns.
  • We also need to bust the myth that feeling really strongly about someone does not mean that one is right.
  • There are various online resources available like podcasts and videos that can educate individuals willing to understand reality and broaden their mindset about social inequality, diversity, and social justice.
Loneliness And Loss Of Connection
Loneliness And Loss Of Connection

Loneliness is nothing new, but the last decade the feeling has expanded to alarming degrees. Loneliness used to mean being socially isolated, but now it means loss of connection, lack of trust, and mental isolation in between two people sitting next to each other.

The digital vortex offered by the smartphone, where we ‘doom scroll’ all the time, desperately trying to keep up with the avalanche of information and news, hasn’t made things easier.

Ambiguous Loss

It happens when your loved one is physically present but has gone absent in all other ways from any sort of relationship.

One can see it when a partner is half-listening to you, distracted on social media, or when during a phone conversation, you can feel that your partner is lost somewhere, and is lagging in his/her response.

Solitude In The Time Of Crisis

We used to love solitude when there was hustle-bustle on the streets, but now when the whole world is isolated and the streets are not as before, solitude feels stressful.

These times of crisis and loss have made our coping mechanism become extreme and unpredictable.

Financial Tensions In A Relationship
Financial Tensions In A Relationship
  • Most couples have disagreements and difference of opinion with matters related to money, due to many factors.
  • We live in a society where attaining financial security is a huge challenge, whereas financial success is placed on a high pedestal.
  • Marriage has traditionally been based on various economic factors unrelated to love and companionship. Families, land, wealth and resources have always dominated the alliance.
  • We have a complex relationship with money and carry a lot of baggage in our heads, old belief patterns and behaviours, which spill into the relationship.
Marriage Is Also A Financial Partnership

The subject of money becomes the centre of the cyclone in most relationships.

  • As gender roles get skewed, old rules are getting thrown out the door and money is becoming a measuring scale of status, access, freedom, comfort, interdependence, independence, trust and loyalty.
  • People who grew up poor would want to prove their worth, and others who grew up rich may not understand the need.
  • The age of marriage is now a decade ahead then it was earlier, and most people are already economically independent, and may have also accrued various purchases and built a credit and debt portfolio.
Plan Ahead And Live Together

Partners need to recalibrate their living, working, parenting and recreational patterns and get back to the drawing board about how to spend and save. No previous rules seem to apply in this age of the pandemic, job losses, political uncertainty and widespread conflict.

One needs to ask oneself basic questions about the meaning of money and how it would impact the rest of one’s life and relationship with family and loved ones.