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Mistakes during arguments

"Holding: the absolute truth: We think that when we say something during a conflict, it is an absolute truth rather than a reflection of an experience. If I feel it, then it must be a fact.
Using the words "always" and "never:" I always do all the work/You never help with the work. Nobody likes to be defined by someone else.
Chronic criticism: It happens when you criticize so much that you leave the other person feeling like he can never do anything right.

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How to Fix the Fights You're Sick of Having

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