In usual game, you level up by winning battles and match, but in rela life, you level up with failure. That's how you get experience(XP). Maybe it's a bit confusing, I'm not telling you to fail your exam or anything like that. I mean, you try a new activity, you succeed, there is no feedback for improvement, while if you were to fail, you'll have a room for improvement. No one did get to a million subscriber with their first try. It's all about trying - figuring it out and correcting your action. We won't win at everything we do, but we will build our character through failures and setbacks.

Evolution - level up

We usually create our own character while playing a game, or choose a character we like. For example we create a sim based on our liking, or we choose a fighter on tekken for that same basis. From that, we're given quest and goal to win the game. In real life, we're given a character, we don't choose our sexe, race, we're just appreciating what nature gives us. Also, we're the one designing our own quest so it may be confusing. There are unlimited quest but we need to know our abilities and strenght in order to find the best quest that suit us.

Character, design and type

Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success

Skip the side quest, which are usually fun and sexy but won't bring any value to your life. Main quest are mostly boring but the journey is quite enjoyful. Finding your main quest won't be easy, but you'll have to go out, try many things and figure out what you're good at. Focus on what matters.Remember, quest are subjective and personal, nobody can do it for you. Discover your character!

1st cheat code - Focus on your main quest

As you're building yourself, you'll eventually find out your abilities and strenght. Read books, do sports, watch/listen to a podcast, keep learning, your friend might be able to help you know what you're good at. Your goal should be to reveal your character and build your skills. Those will help you choose your main quest.

2nd Cheat code - Know yourself

The most courageous thing you can do is to know yourself and understand what you truly desire

"Boundaries are not walls. They are the way we protect ourselves and our space.

Learn from your mistake, learn from other's mistake, that's why we learn history, in order to avoid doing the same act. But you need to come with a way of dealing with failure, because the one who won't face failure is the one who didn't do/try anything.If you love trying new activities, you'll face it regularly, that's why you should enjoy it.

4th Cheat Code - Enjoy Failures

Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.

Life is an infinite game, with unlimited quests and a lifelong journey finding yourself and pursuing your quest/purpose. It's not about the ending but more about the path you make and take. Like many games, it's better to play with friends so enjoy it with them by sharing the thread of idea.

Conclusion

The process of getting to know your character over time will continue throughout your life.But the bulk of that realization should happen while you're still Young.

The core idea is that you focus on your quest and let people focus on theirs. That's a way to say you don't have to be involved in people's life too much. Know your limit and put limits so people respect you and your life. It's a really important one.

3rd Cheat code - Boundaries

Life is an infinite game, in contrast of goal ending game where you win by accomplishing some condition. Life is more about keep playing as long as possible. If you succeed in your goal, you no longer have goal so that would lead to an existential crisis, we'll get back to that later.

Introduction

Helping others with their quest will advance you in yours. Humans are inherently social beings, thriving on connections and interactions with others. This social nature not only fosters a sense of belonging and community but also highlights the importance of mutual support. By helping others, individuals not only contribute to the well-being of their community but also experience personal growth and fulfillment. Even in game, it's more fun to play with friends, helping them getting better at it, and you'll have a reliable partner.

5th Cheat code - The power of help

I just saw this video and I really like it, it's not the first time I hear people comparing life with video game so let's deep it. 

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