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Habits That Will Leave You Emotionally Exhausted

Making unfair comparisons

There are advantages to social comparisons, like ensuring that we are reaching certain developmental milestones. But unfair comparisons can cause you to feel inadequate and incompetent.

Online social networks provide a platform for social comparisons. It is important to question the purpose of this kind of contrast. How will comparing yourself to others affect you?

To avoid undervaluing your well-being, make social comparisons that are purposeful and fair.

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Habits That Will Leave You Emotionally Exhausted

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Emotional weight

There are certain foods that, when we eat too much of it, will bring health consequences. Similar to how eating certain foods can affect our physical wellness, thinking in specific ways can also have long-term effects on our emotional wellness. We could gain emotional weight, and it can become as tough to lose as body weight.

Emotional weight could consist of a mix of worry, stress, and disappointments. It can restrict our physical activity and make it difficult to feel joy and appreciation, to be open and accessible, and be motivated and engaged. Some common practices can add to our emotional weight and hurt our emotional wellness.

Setting unrealistic expectations

Expectations are our idea of how we think the world should look. This may involve how we should feel, what we should have achieved, and how other people should be treating us.

We could set up expectations that are too high based on arbitrary rules and then become frustrated when we can't meet it.A good rule of thumb is if we are not working diligently toward something, or there is no proof for what we expect, then it may be unrealistic.

Making unfair comparisons

There are advantages to social comparisons, like ensuring that we are reaching certain developmental milestones. But unfair comparisons can cause you to feel inadequate and incompetent.

Online social networks provide a platform for social comparisons. It is important to question the purpose of this kind of contrast. How will comparing yourself to others affect you?

To avoid undervaluing your well-being, make social comparisons that are purposeful and fair.

Overcommitting

Some of us are prone to take on more responsibilities than we can handle. We sign up for more at work, volunteer, and fill our schedules with more activities. We overcommit.

Taking on more responsibilities reduces the chance that any job will get done really well. Not taking on all the opportunities that you encounter may drive you to the fear of missing out (FOMO).

Focus on finding a balance between doing too much and doing too little. It may take time to find a balance, but it will offset the emotional weight added by the stress of doing too much.

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You Often Make Poor Comparisons

Sometimes we make poor comparisons or the compared items are not representative or equal.

We often decide based on rapid comparisons without really thinking about our options. In order to avoid bad decisions, relying on logic and thoughtful examination of the options can sometimes be more important than relying on your immediate "gut reaction."

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The shortcomings of always comparing yourself to others

Individuals have always had the tendency to compare themselves to others. However, this can only have negative effects on our life: it deprives you of joy, it makes you lose precious time that ...

Tips to overcome the need to compare yourself to others

While comparing yourself to others can cause serious harm to your life, there are some tips you can use in order to avoid this behaviour.

Among these tips, some of the most interesting refer to how to become aware of the negative effects this comparison has on your life, practise gratitude, learn to admire and learn from others or focus on yourself- so you can become a better version of yourself.

Great Results

... are built from small actions that you take every day.

It is your habits that will determine who you are and what you can accomplish in the future.

Start Your Day Early

Wake up early and you can spend some undisturbed time alone and do your most important tasks or get ready for what is coming during the day.

You may feel uneasy and uncomfortable at first, but you need to overcome it and turn it into a habit. Wake up 15 minutes earlier and gradually improve from there can be a good strategy.

Spend 30 Minutes Into Reading

You can do this either in the morning before you start your day or before you sleep at night. Read relevant books that will improve your knowledge or just read personal development books.

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