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A psychologist explains how to beat social anxiety

Introversion and social anxiety are separate

Introversion is how you’re wired, whereas social anxiety is something that is holding you back due to fear instead of a choice you're making.

Non-anxious introverts are very happy to leave a party early, but people with social anxiety often leave because they feel so worried and want relief.

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A psychologist explains how to beat social anxiety

A psychologist explains how to beat social anxiety

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Introversion and social anxiety are separate

Introversion is how you’re wired, whereas social anxiety is something that is holding you back due to fear instead of a choice you're making.

Non-anxious introverts are very happy to leave a party early, but people with social anxiety often leave because they feel so worried and want relief.

Ellen Hendriksen

Ellen Hendriksen

"We have to put action before feeling confidence because when we see ourselves doing challenging things, we start to believe we can."

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