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Optimizing life for fewer regrets

Most of us are afraid of messing thing up. But we rarely ask, “Would I regret that failure?” If the answer is “no,” then that is absolutely a risk you should pursue.

Sometimes, the right decision becomes crystal clear when put into these terms.

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Our emotions are obsessed with the present moment because it’s difficult to look past our immediate fears and anxieties. And this prevents good decision-making.

The sweet spot in decision-making is to find the short-term failures that enable huge long-term successes to happen in the first place.

  • Propose “moonshot” ideas, knowing that 90% of them will get shot down, but that if one of them gets accepted, it will be a huge boost to your career.
  • Be excessively bold in your dating life, stating exactly who and what you want.
  • Buy difficult books expecting that most of them won’t be useful to you, but also that, occasionally, one will completely change your life.
  • Say yes to every invitation knowing that most of the events/people will be boring, but that occasionally you’ll meet someone really interesting.

The act of writing forces you to organize your brain.

Vague feelings become structured and measured. And rereading what you write reveals your own logic (or lack thereof). It also reveals new perspectives you hadn’t considered.

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Clarify your uncertainties

What could happen in the future and how likely is it that it will?

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Zero-based thinking opens up a world of possibilities that you might not otherwise consider. It helps you to think hard about your choices.

  • Applying ZBT to your budget: Carefully decide how you would like to spend or invest your money as if you are starting from scratch.
  • Applying ZBT to your schedule: What if you had no time commitments? How would you spend your time that you find enjoyable, exciting, and fulfilling?
Causes of regret

Studies show that there are these are the three causes of regret:

  • Inaction
  • Lost opportunities
  • Poor judgment

When we decide to not actively pursue the things that we want to, in retrospect, it will bring enduring regrets of what could have been. There are some things that we could have done at that time and some we could have prevented had we not done it.