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The reasons why we date

The reasons for dating

Research has highlighted that there are different reasons people date, reasons which can be split into two main categories: first-date goals and partner-focused.

It is quite important to know why the other chose to date you, as you might end up discovering that you two do not share a viewpoint on this topic.

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The reasons why we date

The reasons why we date

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First dates and first impressions

The first time we meet somebody is actually the time we make an impression of them, impression which usually tends to last until our very last interaction with that person.

Well, first dates are no exceptions and that is why they are so important when getting to know another individual.

The functions of dating

Research has identified seven functions of dating among which the below:

  • Recreation
  • Socialization
  • Increasing status
  • Sexual experimentation
  • Companionship
  • Courtship
  • Intimacy.

The reasons for dating

Research has highlighted that there are different reasons people date, reasons which can be split into two main categories: first-date goals and partner-focused.

It is quite important to know why the other chose to date you, as you might end up discovering that you two do not share a viewpoint on this topic.

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