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The reasons why we date

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/finding-love-the-scientific-take/201806/getting-know-you

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The reasons why we date
It's important to discuss why we date, as the reasons we engage in this behavior may be connected to the success of the date itself.

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First dates and first impressions

First dates and first impressions

The first time we meet somebody is actually the time we make an impression of them, impression which usually tends to last until our very last interaction with that person.

Well, first dates are no exceptions and that is why they are so important when getting to know another individual.

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The functions of dating

Research has identified seven functions of dating among which the below:

  • Recreation
  • Socialization
  • Increasing status
  • Sexual experimentation
  • Companionship
  • Courtship
  • Intimacy.

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The reasons for dating

Research has highlighted that there are different reasons people date, reasons which can be split into two main categories: first-date goals and partner-focused.

It is quite important to know why the other chose to date you, as you might end up discovering that you two do not share a viewpoint on this topic.

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The right place for your first rendez-vous

When choosing the right place for your first date, take into account the risk that things might not work miraculously well from the first try. Therefore, better go for simple places, like pubs, for...

Keep the conversation going

If you are planning your first date with somebody, make sure to pay a special attention to the topics you want to engage in throughout the date. Keep the conversation smart and the exchange of experiences alive.

Shape your mindset

When going on a first date, make sure your mindset is a positive one, no matter what your previous dating experiences felt like. Embrace the fear of a possible failure while hoping for a pleasant outcome.

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Rekindling Of An Old Flame

Breakups and subsequent renewals are quite common across all types of romantic relationships and even marriages.

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The Protest Phase

When people experience breakups they go through the ‘protest’ phase initially, and the rejected lover becomes obsessed with winning back the person who has quit the relationship.

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