Lead With Truth

Take note of your audience's preferred method of reasoning and decision making, then tailor your advice accordingly.

Avoid long, descriptive explanations and break things down with simple analogies. Use analogies based around common knowledge or things you know your audience would be knowledgeable about.

1. Add up the total valued of your cash and other assets. Items could be cash, stocks, bonds, DCs, 401(k), real estate, the money you're owed. Your goal is to determine how much these assets would be worth if you were to convert them into cash.
2. Then subtract all your outstanding liabilities, such as credit card balances, student loans, mortgage(s), medical debt, car loans, private loans, payments remaining on a home or car lease.

• Knowing your net worth provides you with an actual state of your finances.
• It can also tell you how close you are to achieving financial independence.
• Tracking over time helps you know if you're spending too much month after month.
• When opening a bank or brokerage account, your net worth will be considered. Knowing up front can help you see whether you're eligible for certain investments.

When an argument arises, you should both work from the position of 'what can we do to move our shared life forward?’ instead of investing energy into showing why one point of view is correct and the other one is not.

Take responsibility for your actions, be sincere, and work to make the other person feel accounted for and reassured that you’ll behave better next time. 

If you have experienced love at first sight, think what made the stranger stand out to you.

• Did the person resemble someone you had a relationship with before?
• Did the person cause you to feel nostalgic about an old friend? If so, that "love" may have been only a subconscious connection, where your brain remembered a positive impact of a previous relationship.

Knowing this, you may understand why some are certain about the possibility of love at first sight.

But it doesn't make the potential resulting breakup easier. It leaves us feeling like we lost something destiny had intended.

People are often unaware of their people-pleasing behavior. The habit can become so ingrained that it's automatic.

It takes full commitment to stay aware with an intention to change. Write a list of all the things you would normally do in an effort to please. Take note of each time you do them and figure out how you will change it next time.

When you label yourself with "I am...," it has the potential to become your identity. "I am a people pleaser. I am not liked."

Never describe yourself as a people pleaser. Instead, describe your behavior as you make a decision to change it.

In an almost paranormal way, one’s genuine and conscious appreciation of others, devoid of any impurity, has an immediate effect on the people around us.

It is an invisible broadcast one gives out, a vibe that one is vibrating with, an aura that glows like a light bulb for all to see.

Capitalism has made us only understand one kind of wealth, as it is only concerned with the ‘monetary’ economy.

Kindness and empathy towards others produce a different kind of wealth, which benefits everyone. Indifferences are quelled, and goodwill, warmth and support are produced.

"Understanding someone’s suffering is the best gift you can give another person. Understanding is love’s other name. If you don’t understand, you can’t love."  - Thich Nhat Hanh

"… The most precious inheritance that parents can give their children is their own happiness. Our parents may be able to leave us money, houses, and land, but they may not be happy people. If we have happy parents, we have received the richest inheritance of all."  - Thich Nhat Hanh

There is no objective reality when it comes to people.

Facts may be facts, but our viewpoint and our vantage point impact our ability to process the facts. We look at life through our own personal filters, our own past experiences, beliefs, and paradigms.

If you do something for someone just because they did it for you or you want something back, you are doing business, not kindness.

If you choose to give 300 percent, then go for it, regardless of what others give you in return.

• Brainstorm and jot it down: Start with the prompt, "The time when..." List at least ten things.
• Narrow it down and focus: Go back to your list of ten and pick three things that are really bothering you, and you feel strongly about. Take 30 minutes of uninterrupted time to write. Focus on the details, the order of events, and especially how they made you feel.
• Pick one and tell your story: You don't have to write a memoir or be a creative writer. You can also write it from someone else's perspective. Writing it down is to say that this thing did happen.