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Difficult Things You Should Start Doing for the People Around You



Difficult Things You Should Start Doing for the People Around You
Be a blessing. Be a friend. Encourage someone. Take time to care. Let your words heal, and not wound. You have the power to improve someone else's day, perhaps even their whole life, simply by giving them your sincere presence, compassion and kindness today. It's not always easy, but it's worth it.


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Becoming A Source Of Sincere Support

Becoming A Source Of Sincere Support
  • Many of the admired people in our lives generally were not the ones that provided us with all the solutions or solved all our problems.
  • Sincere, silent support, like active listening, and genuine care is never overlooked.
  • Being the strength of others in the hour of need, even if it is just providing a shoulder to cry on.




Show Respect

Becoming truly who we are is the greatest privilege that life gives us. The people who let you blossom are the ones that need appreciation, kindness and respect.

Do not bully or victimize anyone for being different than the majority. Be the person that helps others give their fullest potential.



Lead With Truth

Being trustworthy and truthful isn’t something that really resonates nowadays, but is nonetheless the foundation of all relationships and healthy communication.

If we are concealing facts, covering up, withholding the truth, or are selective in our honesty, we see the consequences in no time.



Clear Communication

  • Comparisons, negative thoughts and hateful gestures need to be replaced by clear and kind communication, and being able to listen to and speak the truth.
  • Relationships are hindered and broken with threats, belittling, mockery, teasing, name-calling and generally hostile behaviour.
  • If the other person constantly receives signals that you hate them, it is very hard to resolve any dispute.



Tune In

When one tunes out of a relationship or ignores the other person, it breaks down any hope of reaching a solution and ends up freezing the argument in ice.

Complete ‘ghosting’ is only an option when we are clear about our decision and can live with the consequences.



Giving Undivided Attention

Giving someone your full attention is the gift of your time and kindness.

Listening actively and showing the others how important they are by giving our full attention, is always appreciated. Listening without any anticipation of getting your turn to reply is the most valued gesture you can make to a person.



Recognition And Praise

Genuine praise and appreciation of how amazing the other person is, especially in a public setting, is extremely rewarding.

The other person feels empowered and your good karma never goes unrewarded. A rule to be followed is to praise the other person in public but never penalize or ridicule someone in any public setting.




The most important thing that keeps our lives in a flow is constant learning. One should study and read whatever possible, engage with others, ask questions, and never stop evolving.

One has to always make an endeavour to leave other people in a better condition than they were before.




Emotional Contagion

This is what researchers call when we mimic the expressions and the emotions of the people around us.

The phrase "misery loves company" is a widely-used term and...

The 3 Stages of Emotional Contagion

  1. Mimicry - emotions are starting to be recognized, subtle copying of gestures or facial expressions
  2. Feedback - here is where we begin to experience the emotion being expressed towards us
  3. Contagion - the emotions evoked in us has to be expressed or related to others to provide release.

Tips on Staying Positive

  • Surround yourself with things that make you happy
  • Send back positivity to others
  • Practice self-awareness to recognize what is happening in the present moment better
  • Laugh out loud
  • Try not to take things personally.

Negative vs. Positive Feedback

Positive feedback isn’t the best way to drive results and negative feedback isn’t actually all that bad:
  • Any negative feedback should be clear and timely yet not so harsh as to be pe...

For feedback to be effective...

  • Be Specific;
  • Be Immediate: you wait too long, it can have less impact and make it harder for the person to grasp exactly what needs changing;
  • Tie Feedback to Goals: it gives the receiver a clear goal to work towards and reason why you’ve given them this feedback;
  • Ensure Feedback Is Actionable;
  • Use the Right Language;
  • Don't avoid it: when feedback is given openly and honestly, it can be extremely valuable for your organization.


Is a way to provide feedback and critique without creating fear or negative feelings, branded by the animation studio Pixar. 

Imagine an art director giving feedback to an animator on some sketches for Pixar’s next blockbuster movie and instead of saying something like “but the characters expression is all wrong,” they’ll frame it using more encouraging and creative words like and or what if: “what if we could make their expression more (enthusiastic, brazen, etc).

Saying Stuff We Regret

Saying Stuff We Regret
  • We are all social creatures, susceptible to say something that may offend others.
  • We blurt out stuff, and it is at most a harmless mistake to us, but words hurt others more...

Before We Apologize

  1. We might want to assess the actual harm and find out the depth of the wound.
  2. Don’t say ‘Why are you so mad?’, but frame it as ‘What did i do?’
  3. Don’t gaslight the problem, but say something supportive, realistic and helpful, like you understand and feel ashamed that you have committed this mistake, but you can make it better.
  4. Don’t put the problem on the backburner, or procrastinate on the ‘talk’. We need to handle the offence better or our handling becomes the offence.

During Our Apology

  1. Take responsibility instead of making excuses or being defensive, or worse, accusing the other person subtly.
  2. When words touch an emotional wound, we don’t need to delve deep and try to clear our name. Feelings are different from facts, and we can forget about an objective discussion now.
  3. Be genuine in your words, body language, vocal pitch and facial pitch. Try to talk face-to-face and not by text or email.
  4. Make a case for the mistake not happening again by educating yourself, and then reassuring the hurt person.

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