<ul>
<li>Many of the admired people in our lives generally were not the ones that provided us with all the solutions or solved all our problems.</li>
<li>Sincere, silent support, like active listening, and genuine care is never overlooked.</li>
<li>Being the strength of others in the hour of need, even if it is just providing a shoulder to cry on.</li>
</ul>

Becoming A Source Of Sincere Support

Love & Relationships

Becoming truly who we are is the greatest privilege that life gives us. The people who let you blossom are the ones that need appreciation, kindness and respect. 
Do not bully or victimize anyone for being different than the majority. Be the person that helps others give their fullest potential.

Show Respect

Being trustworthy and truthful isn’t something that really resonates nowadays, but is nonetheless the foundation of all relationships and healthy communication. 
If we are concealing facts, covering up, withholding the truth, or are selective in our honesty, we see the consequences in no time.

Lead With Truth

<ul>
<li>Comparisons, negative thoughts and hateful gestures need to be replaced by clear and kind communication, and being able to listen to and speak the truth.</li>
<li>Relationships are hindered and broken with threats, belittling, mockery, teasing, name-calling and generally hostile behaviour. </li>
<li>If the other person constantly receives signals that you hate them, it is very hard to resolve any dispute.</li>
</ul>

Clear Communication

When one tunes out of a relationship or ignores the other person, it breaks down any hope of reaching a solution and ends up freezing the argument in ice. 
Complete ‘ghosting’ is only an option when we are clear about our decision and can live with the consequences.

Tune In

Giving someone your full attention is the gift of your time and kindness.
Listening actively and showing the others how important they are by giving our full attention, is always appreciated. Listening without any anticipation of getting your turn to reply is the most valued gesture you can make to a person.

Giving Undivided Attention

Genuine praise and appreciation of how amazing the other person is, especially in a public setting, is extremely rewarding. 
The other person feels empowered and your good karma never goes unrewarded. A rule to be followed is to praise the other person in public but never penalize or ridicule someone in any public setting.

Recognition And Praise

The most important thing that keeps our lives in a flow is constant learning. One should study and read whatever possible, engage with others, ask questions, and never stop evolving.
One has to always make an endeavour to leave other people in a better condition than they were before.

Learning

<img src="https://i2.wp.com/www.marcandangel.com/wp-content/uploads/7-difficult-things-for-others.jpg?resize=500%2C281&amp;is-pending-load=1#038;ssl=1" alt="7 Difficult Things You Should Start Doing for the People Around You" width="500" height="500" srcset="data:image/gif;base64, https://www.marcandangel.com/2020/06/22/7-difficult-things-you-should-start-doing-for-the-people-around-you/R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7">We are all in this together, so always be kinder than necessary. What goes around comes around. No one has ever made themselves strong by showing how small someone else is. Everyone you meet is learning something, is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something. Know this. And be extra kind today.In other words, don’t just preach online.Actually do the difficult things, too.Be compassionate in whatever way you can.Be a beacon of hope to people you pass on the street.Embody what you preach.Many of the kindest gestures you’ll ever make, and the most important things you’ll ever do, won’t come easy and will never be seen publicly.Do them anyway…<h2>1. Start being a source of sincere support.</h2>The closest thing to being cared for is to care for others. Again, we are all in this together and we should treat each other as such. The very demons that torment each of us, torment others all over the world. It is our challenges and troubles that connect us at the deepest level.If you think about the people who have had the greatest positive effect on your life—the ones who truly made a difference—you will likely realize that they aren’t the ones that tried to give you all the answers or solve all your problems. They’re the ones who sat silently with you when you needed a moment to think, who lent you a shoulder when you needed to cry, and who tolerated not having all the answers, but stood beside you anyway. Be this person for those around you every chance you get.<h2>2. Start going out of your way to show respect.</h2>Life’s greatest privilege is to become who you truly are. You have to dare to be yourself, one hundred percent, however anxious or odd that self may prove to be. The people who support you in doing so are extraordinary. Appreciate these people and their kindness, and pay it forward when you’re able.Never bully someone into silence. Never victimize others for being different. Accept no one’s close-minded definition of another person. Let people define themselves. You have the ability to show people how awesome they are, just the way they are. So act on this ability without hesitation; and don’t forget to show yourself the same courtesy.Ultimately, how far you go in life depends on your willingness to be helpful to the young, respectful to the aged, tender with the hurt, supportive of the striving, and patient with those who are weaker or stronger than the majority.<h2>3. Start leading with the truth.</h2>Trust is the bedrock of all healthy communication, and when trust is broken it takes a long time and commitment on the part of both parties involved to repair it and heal. The key thing to remember here is that secrets can be just as deceitful as openly telling a lie.All too often, Angel and I will hear <a href="https://www.marcandangel.com/getting-back-to-happy/" dir="ltr">a course student</a> or <a href="https://thinklivebetter.com/" dir="ltr">a Think Better, Live Better attendee</a> say something like, “I didn’t tell him but I didn’t lie about it, either.” This statement is a contradiction, as omissions are lies. If you’re covering up your tracks or withholding the truth in any way, it’s only a matter of time before the truth comes out and trust in the relationship completely breaks down. So speak the truth openly and kindly, always.<h2>4. Start communicating clearly, without needless drama.</h2>Frequent name-calling, threats, eye-rolling, belittling, mockery, hostile teasing, etc. In whatever form, gestures like these are poisonous to a relationship because they convey hate. And it’s virtually impossible to resolve an interpersonal dispute of any kind when the other person is constantly receiving the message that you hate them.Also, keep in mind that if someone makes a mistake and you choose to forgive them, your actions must reinforce your words. In other words, let bygones be bygones. Don’t use their past wrongdoings to justify your present righteousness. When you constantly use someone’s past wrongdoings to make yourself seem “better” than them (“I’m better than you because, unlike you, I didn’t do XYZ in the past.”), it’s a lose-lose situation.Replace your negative thoughts with positive communication! Because the truth is, if you’re throwing hateful gestures at a person instead of communicating with them, there’s a good chance they don’t even know why you’re being so mean.And remember, the single greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. When we hear only what we want to hear, we’re not really listening. We must listen to what we don’t want to hear too. Because that’s how we grow stronger, together.<h2>5. Start tuning in, especially when you feel like tuning out.</h2>In other words, no more silent treatments of any kind!Tuning out, ignoring, disengaging, refusing to acknowledge, etc. All variations of the silent treatment don’t just remove the other person from the argument you’re having with them, it ends up removing them, emotionally, from the relationship you have with them, and the understanding you hope to reach.When you’re ignoring someone, you’re really teaching them to live without you—to ignore you right back. If that’s what you want, be clear about it. And if not, tune back in!<h2>6. Start giving people your undivided attention while you’re with them.</h2>You don’t have to tell people that you care, just show them. In your relationships and interactions with others, nothing you can give is more appreciated than your sincere, focused attention. Being with someone, listening without a clock and without anticipation of results is the ultimate compliment. It is indeed the most valued gesture you can make to another human being.When we pay attention to each other we breathe new life into each other. With frequent attention and affection our relationships flourish, and we as individuals grow wiser and stronger. We help heal each other’s wounds and support each other’s growth. So give someone the gift of YOU—your time, undivided attention and kindness.<h2>7. Start giving more recognition and praise (in public).</h2>Give genuine praise whenever possible. Doing so can be difficult, yet it’s a mighty act of service. Start noticing what you like about others and speak up. Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are is extremely rewarding. It’s an investment in them that doesn’t cost you a thing, and the returns can be astounding. Not only will they feel empowered, but also what goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you too.Finally, be sure to follow this rule: “Praise in public, penalize in private.” Never publicly ridicule someone when you have the option not to. If you don’t understand someone, ask questions. If you don’t agree with them, respectfully tell them. But don’t judge them behind their back to everyone else.<h3>Now, it’s your turn…</h3>Remembering all of the aforementioned—and living accordingly—of course, is sometimes much easier said than done. But please commit yourself to practicing. Commit yourself to doing the difficult things.Above all, don’t stop learning. Don’t stop investing in yourself. Study. Read. Watch. Engage deeply with people, including those who think differently. Ask questions. Listen closely. And don’t just grow in knowledge. Be a person who gives back. Use what you’re learning to make a difference.The bottom line is that this day will never come again…Be a blessing.Be a friend.Encourage someone.Take time to care.Let your words heal, and not wound.You have the power to improve someone else’s day, perhaps even their whole life, simply by giving them your sincere presence, compassion and kindness today.Do it!…And please leave us a comment before you go…Did this short post resonate with you?Which point resonated the most?Leave a reply below and share your thoughts with us.Finally, if you haven’t done so already, be sure to sign-up for our free newsletter to <a href="https://www.marcandangel.com/subscribe/" dir="ltr">receive new articles like this in your inbox each week</a>.

Be a blessing. Be a friend. Encourage someone. Take time to care. Let your words heal, and not wound. You have the power to improve someone else's day, perhaps even their whole life, simply by giving them your sincere presence, compassion and kindness today. It's not always easy, but it's worth it.

Love & Family

We are all in this together, so always be kinder than necessary. What goes around comes around. No one has ever made themselves strong by showing how small someone else is. Everyone you meet is learning something, is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something. Know this. And be extra kind today.

In other words, don’t just preach online.

Actually do the difficult things, too.

Be compassionate in whatever way you can.

Be a beacon of hope to people you pass on the street.

Many of the kindest gestures you’ll ever make, and the most important things you’ll ever do, won’t come easy and will never be seen publicly.

Do them anyway…

1. Start being a source of sincere support.

The closest thing to being cared for is to care for others. Again, we are all in this together and we should treat each other as such. The very demons that torment each of us, torment others all over the world. It is our challenges and troubles that connect us at the deepest level.

If you think about the people who have had the greatest positive effect on your life—the ones who truly made a difference—you will likely realize that they aren’t the ones that tried to give you all the answers or solve all your problems. They’re the ones who sat silently with you when you needed a moment to think, who lent you a shoulder when you needed to cry, and who tolerated not having all the answers, but stood beside you anyway. Be this person for those around you every chance you get.

2. Start going out of your way to show respect.

Life’s greatest privilege is to become who you truly are. You have to dare to be yourself, one hundred percent, however anxious or odd that self may prove to be. The people who support you in doing so are extraordinary. Appreciate these people and their kindness, and pay it forward when you’re able.

Never bully someone into silence. Never victimize others for being different. Accept no one’s close-minded definition of another person. Let people define themselves. You have the ability to show people how awesome they are, just the way they are. So act on this ability without hesitation; and don’t forget to show yourself the same courtesy.

Ultimately, how far you go in life depends on your willingness to be helpful to the young, respectful to the aged, tender with the hurt, supportive of the striving, and patient with those who are weaker or stronger than the majority.

Trust is the bedrock of all healthy communication, and when trust is broken it takes a long time and commitment on the part of both parties involved to repair it and heal. The key thing to remember here is that secrets can be just as deceitful as openly telling a lie.

All too often, Angel and I will hear <a dir="ltr" href="https://www.marcandangel.com/getting-back-to-happy/">a course student </a>or <a dir="ltr" href="https://thinklivebetter.com/">a Think Better, Live Better attendee </a>say something like, “I didn’t tell him but I didn’t lie about it, either.” This statement is a contradiction, as omissions are lies. If you’re covering up your tracks or withholding the truth in any way, it’s only a matter of time before the truth comes out and trust in the relationship completely breaks down. So speak the truth openly and kindly, always.

4. Start communicating clearly, without needless drama.

Frequent name-calling, threats, eye-rolling, belittling, mockery, hostile teasing, etc. In whatever form, gestures like these are poisonous to a relationship because they convey hate. And it’s virtually impossible to resolve an interpersonal dispute of any kind when the other person is constantly receiving the message that you hate them.

Also, keep in mind that if someone makes a mistake and you choose to forgive them, your actions must reinforce your words. In other words, let bygones be bygones. Don’t use their past wrongdoings to justify your present righteousness. When you constantly use someone’s past wrongdoings to make yourself seem “better” than them (“I’m better than you because, unlike you, I didn’t do XYZ in the past.”), it’s a lose-lose situation.

Replace your negative thoughts with positive communication! Because the truth is, if you’re throwing hateful gestures at a person instead of communicating with them, there’s a good chance they don’t even know why you’re being so mean.

And remember, the single greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. When we hear only what we want to hear, we’re not really listening. We must listen to what we don’t want to hear too. Because that’s how we grow stronger, together.

5. Start tuning in, especially when you feel like tuning out.

In other words, no more silent treatments of any kind!

Tuning out, ignoring, disengaging, refusing to acknowledge, etc. All variations of the silent treatment don’t just remove the other person from the argument you’re having with them, it ends up removing them, emotionally, from the relationship you have with them, and the understanding you hope to reach.

When you’re ignoring someone, you’re really teaching them to live without you—to ignore you right back. If that’s what you want, be clear about it. And if not, tune back in!

6. Start giving people your undivided attention while you’re with them.

You don’t have to tell people that you care, just show them. In your relationships and interactions with others, nothing you can give is more appreciated than your sincere, focused attention. Being with someone, listening without a clock and without anticipation of results is the ultimate compliment. It is indeed the most valued gesture you can make to another human being.

When we pay attention to each other we breathe new life into each other. With frequent attention and affection our relationships flourish, and we as individuals grow wiser and stronger. We help heal each other’s wounds and support each other’s growth. So give someone the gift of YOU—your time, undivided attention and kindness.

7. Start giving more recognition and praise (in public).

Give genuine praise whenever possible. Doing so can be difficult, yet it’s a mighty act of service. Start noticing what you like about others and speak up. Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are is extremely rewarding. It’s an investment in them that doesn’t cost you a thing, and the returns can be astounding. Not only will they feel empowered, but also what goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you too.

Finally, be sure to follow this rule: “Praise in public, penalize in private.” Never publicly ridicule someone when you have the option not to. If you don’t understand someone, ask questions. If you don’t agree with them, respectfully tell them. But don’t judge them behind their back to everyone else.

Remembering all of the aforementioned—and living accordingly—of course, is sometimes much easier said than done. But please commit yourself to practicing. Commit yourself to doing the difficult things.

Above all, don’t stop learning. Don’t stop investing in yourself. Study. Read. Watch. Engage deeply with people, including those who think differently. Ask questions. Listen closely. And don’t just grow in knowledge. Be a person who gives back. Use what you’re learning to make a difference.

The bottom line is that this day will never come again…

Let your words heal, and not wound.

You have the power to improve someone else’s day, perhaps even their whole life, simply by giving them your sincere presence, compassion and kindness today.

And please leave us a comment before you go…

Did this short post resonate with you?

Leave a reply below and share your thoughts with us.

Finally, if you haven’t done so already, be sure to sign-up for our free newsletter to <a dir="ltr" href="https://www.marcandangel.com/subscribe/">receive new articles like this in your inbox each week </a>.

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Lead With Truth

Clear Communication

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Giving Undivided Attention

Recognition And Praise

Learning

The Three Main Factors for Giving Good Advice

Make Generosity a Way of Life

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