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When “Grin and Bear It” Isn't the Right Answer

Being in touch with our emotions and not acting on them is exhausting

It's impossible to experience the weight and not get a little crushed by it. Nor is distraction alone sufficient.

A combination of distraction and acceptance can work well. Distraction can be used intelligently. Taking a few hours off to refuel is different than checking out for weeks. We can also create a private space to voice our emotions. The key is to be able to accept that things are really hard right now. When we do things that make life worth living, it becomes worth living again.

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When “Grin and Bear It” Isn't the Right Answer

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Tricking ourselves into feeling better

A study shows that people who were tricked into smiling had lower heart rates during stressful tasks and were more likely to emerge feeling positive.

Your brain wants to line up with what you feel and believe. It means that we can trick ourselves into feeling better by acting that way.

Acceptance of our feelings

Acceptance helps us acknowledge our feelings and give them an outlet.

Acceptance can take many forms, such as meditation or self-reflection, or just admitting to ourselves that we are stressed, sad, and angry.

Being in touch with our emotions and not acting on them is exhausting

It's impossible to experience the weight and not get a little crushed by it. Nor is distraction alone sufficient.

A combination of distraction and acceptance can work well. Distraction can be used intelligently. Taking a few hours off to refuel is different than checking out for weeks. We can also create a private space to voice our emotions. The key is to be able to accept that things are really hard right now. When we do things that make life worth living, it becomes worth living again.

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