deepstash
Beta
Yes, Anger Has Value: A Psychologist On The Benefits Of Healthy Anger
Anger Is Pleasurable
Anger and the accompanying feelings of revenge are associated with dopamine and norepinephrine secretion in the brain, which feel exhilarating to us.
The neurological chemical systems in the brain reward our anger and make it feel good, which is not the case with the other emotions like shame and sadness.
190 SAVES
SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:
9
Key Ideas
Dealing with your anger
Anger leads us to poor decisions, regrettable behavior, or hurt feelings. However, some anger leads to more significant consequences, like strained relationships or legal trouble.
The key to ...
Anger ≠ aggression
Anger is an emotion, while aggression is a behavior. They differ entirely in one central dimension - control.
- You can't control your emotions directly. In the legal system, nobody gets sent to prison for how they felt, regardless of how angry they were. They get punished for what they do.
- You can influence your emotions indirectly by how you think and behave. For example, when you focus on how terrible all the drivers in your town are, your anger will likely increase. But, if you listen to music and think about how grateful you are, your anger will probably subside.
Expressing anger
While you can't control your emotions of anger directly, you have control over your aggression, which is a decision to express your anger.
Aggression does not only involve acts of violence. Being overly-critical or judgmental of someone in your mind is an act of aggression, as is replying sarcastically or rolling your eyes at someone.
16
Key Ideas
The Power of Forgiveness
Forgive. Research indicates that forgiveness makes you less angry and more healthy.
Dealing with Anger According to Context
Sometimes suppression is the only thing you can do to avoid an escalation. And sometimes reappraisal can cause you to tolerate bad situations.
But that said, telling yourself a more compassionate story about what’s going on inside the other person’s head is usually the best way to go.
3
Key Ideas
"The longer I live, the more convinced I become that life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we r..."
Chuck Swindoll
Mental Habits to Mange Anger
- Put boundaries on people who make you angry.
- Get to the bottom of why you're really angry.
- Respond, don't react. Assess the situation and think about it rationally to arrive at sane conclusions and decisions.
- Take a six-second pause during a heated exchange to quickly assess the costs and benefits of that action.
- Be the first to reach out after an argument. Swallow your pride and make up with the person.
- Shift to the positive. Think of the things you are thankful for. Understand why the person made an action that made you angry.
Anger is one powerful human emotion
When anger comes knocking, and it will, we have to know how to deal with it appropriately. If mismanaged, it can take down company morale and sabotage your ability to lead and collaborate well.