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Anger and the accompanying feelings of revenge are associated with dopamine and norepinephrine secretion in the brain, which feel exhilarating to us.
The neurological chemical systems in the brain reward our anger and make it feel good, which is not the case with the other emotions like shame and sadness.
Letting anger ‘marinate’ in us makes us destructive and can lead to an implosion. Anger is designed to be quick and mobilizing, where we can disengage shortly.
It causes much harm to the person who has stored it within himself and has allowed it to simmer.
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Anger leads us to poor decisions, regrettable behavior, or hurt feelings. However, some anger leads to more significant consequences, like strained relationships or legal trouble.
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Anger is an emotion, while aggression is a behavior. They differ entirely in one central dimension - control.
While you can't control your emotions of anger directly, you have control over your aggression, which is a decision to express your anger.
Aggression does not only involve acts of violence. Being overly-critical or judgmental of someone in your mind is an act of aggression, as is replying sarcastically or rolling your eyes at someone.
Forgive. Research indicates that forgiveness makes you less angry and more healthy.
Sometimes suppression is the only thing you can do to avoid an escalation. And sometimes reappraisal can cause you to tolerate bad situations.
But that said, telling yourself a more compassionate story about what’s going on inside the other person’s head is usually the best way to go.
Unchecked self-talk can easily turn into self-delusion. The stories we create almost always make you look like the good guy and cannot be termed as objective.