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Birthday Depression: Why Birthdays Are So Hard

How to Beat the Birthday Blues

  • Birthday blues are often part of getting older. You are not alone in feeling this way.
  • If you want to celebrate, it's on you to plan it or verbalize your own expectations. People can't read your mind.
  • Be direct about gifts. People don't always know your preferences, so give friends and family ideas of what kind of gifts to get you.
  • Have compassion for yourself. You are more than your birthday.
  • Your birthday comes once a year - take charge and do it right for you.

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  • Join a support group for depression. 
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Do things that relax and energize you. This includes following a healthy lifestyle, learning how to better manage stress, setting limits on what you’re able to do, and scheduling fun activities into your day.

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  • You go overboard in the relationship.
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