Control has no place in love nor friendship
Control is a way for us to build relationships; it usually begins without any malicious intent but eventually it becomes clear that it isn't a great foundation for a healthy relationship or connection.
Conventionally 3 things make control easier: money, talent, or physical attractiveness.
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Much can be learned from how you each deal with conflict, and avoiding it keeps you from that knowledge.
An inability to resolve conflict is a major reason why in-love feelings fade away.
Ask the important questions -- about values, money, children, religion/spirituality, past relationships.
If you are afraid to be forthright in your questions, then the fear itself is letting you know that your fear of rejection may be in charge -- which means you have more inner work to do.
We can ask ourselves five questions when faced with disappointment, that will help us to cope better with it:
Why am I disappointed?
It can be difficult to explain why you are disappointed, but asking the right question about the reason gets you towards the root of the problem. This is the first step in effectively fighting against it.
Could I have done anything to prevent it?
We can feel regret along with disappointment, but we have to realize that every circumstance is not in our control. In most cases, we don't control much, and even if we do, the pain can be a catalyst in our growth.
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