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Relationship advice: Get good at fighting

Relationships, like muscles, cannot get stronger without stress and challenge. You will have to fight at times and hash things out. However, it is essential to know how to fight.

  • Never criticize your partner's character or belittle them. "You're so stupid" vs "that thing you did was stupid."
  • Do not fetch old arguments to tack onto current ones.
  • If things get too heated, take a breather. Come back once emotions have cooled off a bit.
  • Being "right is not as important as both people feeling respected and heard.

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