Mindsets in relationships

• The fixed mindset says that tests or experts can tell us what our potential is, what we’re capable of, what our future will be: you can simply measure the fixed ability right now and project it into the future.
• The idea that one evaluation can measure you fo...

• The growth mindset is the belief that abilities can be cultivated through effort. Everyone can change and grow through application and experience. 
• This is the mindset that allows people to succeed during challenging times.
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• Having a fixed mindset means believing that your qualities are carved in stone. This creates an urgency to prove yourself all the time.
• People with a fixed mindset expect ability to show up on its own before any learning takes place.
• Some of...

Mindsets are just beliefs; powerful ones, but they’re just something in your mind, and you can change them.

Just by being aware of the two mindsets (fixed and growth), you can start thinking and reacting in different ways. It’s also important to realize...

From the point of view of the fixed mindset, effort is only for people with deficiencies. Needing it casts a shadow on your ability.

Effort also leaves you with no excuses. Without effort, you can always say, “I could have been ...” But once you try, yo...

People with a fixed mindset usually try to prove that they’re special. The problem is when special begins to mean better than others.

People who believe in fixed traits feel an urgency to succeed, and when they do succeed, they feel and display a sense of superiority be...

• For the rest of your life, seek constructive criticism, even when you're tempted to create a world in which you're perfect.
• Is there something in your past that you think measured you? A test score, being fired from a job or being rejected? F...

The growth mindset shows that people can change, but it doesn’t tell you how much change is possible or how long change will take.

The growth mindset also doesn’t mean everything that can be changed should be changed. We all need to accept some of our imper...