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Mindsets in relationships

People with a fixed mindset usually say the ideal partner would:

  • Put them on a pedestal.
  • Make them feel perfect.
  • Worship them.

People with the growth mindset hope their ideal partner is someone who would:

  • See their faults and help them to work on them.
  • Challenge them to become a better person.
  • Encourage them to learn new things.

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  • It provokes dissatisfaction and disappointment.
  • It decreases self-knowledge and self-awareness. 
  • It cuts off opportunities. A fixed mindset person is usually afraid to take risks.
  • It encourages mediocrity.
  • It attracts mediocre relationships that will hardly bring long-term satisfaction.
  • It leads to stagnation.
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The growth-oriented person perceives failures as useful feedback. He doesn’t stop to wonder if he’s appreciated by others or if he should do more to impress. The growth-oriented person seeks excellence through practice. 

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