These are not signs of emotional maturity or intelligence, because there are some things that you should get upset about (an unfaithful or neglectful partner, for example).
Specific situations demand certain reactions, and this idea of people being “too much” or “crazy” is destructive because it causes you to act fake and pretend that your partner’s hurtful actions don’t bother you.
We need to find out how much tolerance we have of people that are different from us, whether it is their looks, background or belief patterns.
We also need to bust the myth that feeling really strongly about someone does not mean that one is right.
There are various online resources available like podcasts and videos that can educate individuals willing to understand reality and broaden their mindset about social inequality, diversity, and social justice.
Partners need to recalibrate their living, working, parenting and recreational patterns and get back to the drawing board about how to spend and save. No previous rules seem to apply in this age of the pandemic, job losses, political uncertainty and widespread conflict.
One needs to ask oneself basic questions about the meaning of money and how it would impact the rest of one’s life and relationship with family and loved ones.