The basic human desire to look good gets in the way of active listening and speaking towards your audience. 
It can be deflating to be with people who act like they know everything and are impossible to impress. These are behaviors of a kill-joy.

The Desire to Look Good

Communication

Compelling the other person to be wrong is a terrible trait to have and can be extremely destructive in relationships. This need usually stems from the fear of being disrespected or from the fear of being seen for who you are, a flawed person that makes mistakes and is imperfect just like everyone else.
 This behavior brings forth behavior that may cause anger and resentment to arise, interruption. The interrupter doesn&#39;t listen and exerts dominance while the interrupted feels belittled.

The Need to Be Right

People who are driven by pleasing people are neither honest or authentic because they may say yes to things they don&#39;t really want to do just because they do not want to disagree because of the fear of being disliked. 
If you find yourself to be a people-pleaser, rethink your values and ask yourself these: 
<ul>
<li>What do I stand for?</li>
<li>What is most important to me in life?</li>
<li>What is not negotiable?</li>
</ul>
When you have your core values clear, you won&#39;t be easily shaken by other&#39;s opinions or needs.

People Pleasing

Fixers find it difficult to accept that people are allowed to be upset. They try to keep making things &quot;all right&quot;. It is a conversation killer because sometimes people just need to express their sadness, grief, or other negative emotions. 
Fixers might be this way because of their family origin where emotional expression was unacceptable. They deny the feelings that people need to feel and tend to withhold extravagant affection.

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