If you begin discussions by asking questions regarding the current location or occasion , it can help release the pressure of trying to force a conversation. Make sure it is open ended, nonthreatening and nonpersonal. From there you can move the conversation to something more personal. Be the one asking the questions and allow the other person to speak.
Show your interest and keep the conversation flowing. Follow-up questions can make conversations less superficial. People are more willing to reveal sensitive or personal information when the toughest questions are asked at the beginning of the conversation. Active listening will show your advice-giver that you are engaged and care about what is being discussed.
Lesson learned analysis is a process used to learn from the past and improve in the future. It helps clear out regret from past events. Do that by asking yourself these three questions: What was supposed to happen? What actually happened? What would I do differently next time?
Through questions others can better process what’s happened, and it allows you to clarify and solidify details of the conversation. If you aren't sure that the other person fully comprehended the conversation, ask clarifying questions to check their understanding.