The Vulnerability Effect
When we admit our weakness, we are more human, likeable and authentic. This honest and imperfect person becomes charismatic, something known as the vulnerability effect.
While conducting a study of two women selling blenders at a mall, it was found that the ‘clumsy’ lady seller, who often forgot to close the lid and spilt smoothie on herself was considered more likeable and charismatic. The other more perfect woman who had a perfectly good presentation was not considered as charismatic.
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Being a great conversationalist should normally mean speaking more right? Wrong! One has to maintain a 2:1 ratio of listening versus speaking, while we communicate.
Asking lots of follow up questions or examples, which makes the other person dig deeper, makes for a great conversation, and the person automatically feels that the listener is a great conversationalist and gets attracted on a subconscious level.
Essentially, one is deemed a great conversationalist and therefore charismatic, just by listening actively.
Charismatic people keep up the motivational levels of their team members by being encouraging, optimistic and a bundle of energy and positivity.
They reward good work, give ample credit to others and give sincere compliments.
The takeaway here is to be competent and then be lovable, as both are crucial.
Charisma is a magnetic attractiveness that inspires devotion in others, and is not an innate talent of the few.
It is a science that many can learn and cultivate in themselves by following a set of guidelines. Keep in mind that charisma does not mean perfection, and many seemingly awkward or average-looking men and women are in fact, extremely charismatic.
It is a well-known fact that most people quit due to bad bosses. This includes all the super-geniuses who would have driven the company towards growth and prosperity but were sidelined or diminished by lousy, insecure bosses.
An extensive study on more than fifty thousand leaders showed that only one in 2000 leaders can be unlikeable and still be successful.
Teams having likeable leaders tend to be stable and flourishing. A likeable leader makes the team members step out of their comfort zone and give their best, without forcing anything.
Don’t try to interact with people if you are not feeling your best, either emotionally, physically or mentally.
Instead of socializing due to an obligation, even though you are not at your 100 percent, it is better to be absent.
If you want to get along with people, you have to understand that like an onion, people have layers, and one has to peel the layers from them to reveal their real, amazing nature. No one is inherently boring.
You have to take responsibility, actively engage and delight the person. Example: The quiet person that no one talks to can be nurtured simply by listening with empathy and respect.
Social wealth is what charismatic people excel at. They go beyond just meeting new people or maintaining existing relations. They become connectors who introduce people with each other, knowing that they will ‘hit it’ well together.
Charismatic people are not selfish about their social wealth, but spread it in abundance, making them sought after among their friends.
Charismatic people offer encouragement instead of skeptically listening to people’s goals and ideas. Find ways to encourage people while still holding them accountable:
Charisma, defined as that irresistible magnetism some people possess, is often thought of as trait you’re born with (you either have it or you don’t).
But the truth is that charisma is a skill you can learn.
Charisma is about what you say and do as opposed to who you really are as a person. Your subconscious, social cues, physical expression, and the way you treat others all play a part in developing your charisma.
Developing charisma is a process that involves looking carefully at yourself and fine-tuning your communication.
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