The Alternative To Resilience

Pain narrows down our choices and creates a tunnel vision that can lead to negative thinking and even self-harm. Positivity by itself feels shallow.

Imagination comes with a choice of action, which offers a possibility to feel something apart from pain.

Resilience is becoming a buzzword, a mainstay of many books telling us to recover and grow from difficulties. This substitute word for mental toughness may not be enough to adjust or recoup from misfortune, heartbreak, or a tragedy.

Pure resilience, it seems, is hard to cultivate ...

Bouncing back from a profound loss or suffering may be impossible for many, as the crisis has created a black hole in their universe, which they have now entered. It is not the time to look back, as the past self is suddenly useless and irrelevant.

Bouncing back does not take into account ...

• The first question we need to ask during or after a crisis is what is it that matters to us the most? What must we protect and hold on to? We need to look at what is possible in this new reality and what choices we have.
• One has to pull the pieces together and craft a workable life...

Imagination reduces the cognitive, neural and physiological conditioned threat response.

An individual can use imagination to plan for the future by thinking from the perspective of the past. It is a creative approach which can be practised while handling life’s challenge...