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Why Am I So Obsessed with Giving People Gifts?

Unhealthy gift-giving

Unhealthy gift-giving

Some people are obsessed with giving gifts, even if they can't afford it.

Science says we do this because giving to others genuinely makes people happier. Even if you’re struggling to meet your own basic needs, you’re more likely to derive happiness from spending your money on someone else. But there is a limit.

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