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Understanding how people feel appreciated

The idea of Gary Chapman's love languages is that everyone gives and receives love in different ways. If we want to show people that we care about them, we need to understand what behaviours they interpret as an expression of appreciation.

The five love languages are:

  1. Words of affirmation
  2. Quality time
  3. Acts of service
  4. Physical touch
  5. Receiving gifts

Most people prefer one over the others. Knowing which one a person prefers will free you from the need to spend money on fancy presents.

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