1. Acknowledge and accept the various bad ways used to cope-up with negative emotions.
2. Identify the feelings and be comfortable with the uncomfortable emotions like frustration and hopelessness.
3. Start a journal and write down your deepest feelings and insecurities.
4. Look for clues in these negative thoughts, trying to find the underlying cause or pattern.
5. Identify the basic inconsistencies and try to make a course correction in the right direction.

We get stuck in our emotions due to our spiralling mind, our fixation with old ideas and behaviours, our need to be always right, perfectionism and thinking in absolute terms.

When faced with strong reactive emotion, we are usually unable to understand that our emotions ar...