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How to move on after failure — and rebuild your confidence

Separate your value from your work

One reaction of failing is to think failure defines your overall worth. If no one buys my idea, then my idea and I must not be very good.

That thinking causes you to miss out on some valuable feedback. You should be able to ask afterwards: "What did I learn from this?" You learn far more from your mistakes.

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Why Interviewers Ask It

This introductory question serves as an icebreaker to lend an easy flow to the conversation. It helps the recruiter to get to know you in terms of hard and soft skills.

It’s a great op...

How to build your response
  • Present: Talk a little bit about what your current role is, the scope of it, and possibly a recent achievement.
  • Past: Tell the interviewer how you got there and/or mention a past experience that’s relevant to the job and company you’re applying for.
  • Future: Continue with what you’re looking to do next and why you’re interested in this job.
You do not have to respond in this order. Tweak it to suit you. Make sure to tie it to the job and company.
Tailor Your Answer

Interviewers want to know how your answer about yourself is relevant to the position and company you’re applying for.

This is an opportunity to articulate why you’re interested and how your objective fulfills their goals. In order to do that, spend some time researching the company. If your answers resonate with them, it shows that you really understand the role.

Self Esteem Vs Self-Worth
Self Esteem Vs Self-Worth

Many of us have our growing up years filled with experiences that destroy our self-worth. Slowly we establish in our minds that we are not good enough.

Self-worth is different from self-est...

Society Primes Us To Feel Unworthy
  • Ads on TV tell us what we need to spend money on to become acceptable, successful or lovable.
  • Our educational system measures us using standard grades and test-scores, destroying our individuality.
  • Parents love our accomplishments and subtly want us to push ourselves towards greater success at the cost of our freedom of personal choice.
  • Social media has highly effective metrics to measure our worthiness, like the number of followers or likes.

When we fail to do what society wants us to do, we lose approval and experience unworthiness.

Imagine A Beautiful World

Begin to feel worthy by:

  1. Forgiving yourself for your past mistakes, acknowledging and accepting our flaws and deeds.
  2. Accept how you look, your laugh, your smile, your unique way of looking at the world. That’s what makes you special.
  3. Embrace your quirks and work towards enhancing your worldview.
  4. Do not criticise yourself when you experience emotional pain. Be kind to yourself.
  5. Connect with people who are supportive and healing.
  6. Have the courage to free yourself from society's rules and work towards being you.
Being Frugal Is Not Cheap

Frugal people do spend money, but want the maximum bang for the buck, without stressing themselves.

Frugality does not mean compromising quality, neglecting your social life, or being a...

Be A Smart Spender
  • Use tools like financial books, podcasts, and online savings groups.
  • Avoid indulging in unnecessary expenses daily, reducing them or finding healthier and more affordable alternatives.
  • Cultivate a healthier attitude and the right mindset towards your finances.
  • Know that small, practical, money-saving actions can compound into better living for you in the long run.
Use Smart Hacks

There are plenty of financial and budgeting tools and apps that can help us manage our funds, keep track of our expenses, and trigger us when we are off-track.

Simple hacks like carrying a debit card or cash instead of a credit card, or deleting our card details from shopping sites can help us avoid spending impulsively.