GRETCHEN RUBIN

Watching the news makes us feel like we’re doing something when we’re not.

We feel bad ignoring the bad stuff that happens in the world. So we keep watching:  Because watching disasters unfold, even while we do nothing, at least feels a little more compassionate than switching off.

We’re often taught that doing good deeds is a virtue, and it truly is. But what’s even more virtuous is doing them without expecting recognition or praise.

When we help others, it should come from a place of genuine care and empathy, not from the desire to boost our own image. Sharing your ...

We hate the feeling of being bossed around, even when doing as we’re told is good for us.

Psychological reactance is our knee-jerk negative reaction to being told what to do.

Based on research, almost everyone has this mental reflex against being told what to do, esp...